To be faithful today is like finding a dog that won’t chase a cat. You find a dog that won’t chase a cat and I’ll show you a person who doesn’t cheat.
Now, if you live in a fantasy world where Disney’s fairy tale endings are your perception of how every guy you’re into is supposed to be then STOP reading. Don’t let me be the one that tells you that Santa is not real. If you’re under the age 25 and think you’re ready for marriage then please, please, please STOP reading. There is just no hope for you either way. Your world is just “too real” for us fake people so we should learn from you.
If you are not in a fantasy world where Cinderella is in every girl and do not subscribe to wedding magazines, then you, my friend, can be saved.
Can we all just agree that the title thing—let’s make it Facebook official and claim each other in our Twitter bios—does’t mean the same as before. The word “relationship” is more like a leash for cheaters.
That’s where they all flock to now; a relationship. It’s rather selfish if you think about it.
“Yeah, let’s get together so I won’t be totally alone, but if I see someone that catches my eye and is ready to parlay then there is no guarantee I won’t play in the bush.”
How rude and inconsiderate, but it’s the people in those relationships don’t see that. All they see is, “I love you.” Then we wonder why that person put up with that? I’ll tell you why. Because their fantasy is way better than our single, miserable fantasy and at the end of the day a guaranteed bed warmer at night is better than a pillow.
But these relationships that display the “never-ending” love in endless accounts of PDA are the fakest of all. It’s all show. Because when the weekend approaches, neither of them will know where each other is at, and you will because you’ll be staring at one of them all over some random person at a party.
Even though you want to smile inside when you see that infidelity, you feel slightly bad for the idiot at home because how was he or she supposed to know his or her mate is a cheater. She or he is in love.
In reality, the idiot doesn’t know that “love” is against them. There is a study on the site Your Tango that says 70 percent of married men admitted to cheating, and females weren’t any better with close to 60 percent. Now if that’s with marriage, then who’s saying a measly boyfriend/girlfriend tag is supposed to stand a chance.
Now, you can’t stop cheating. It’s inevitable like a tilted building that’s meant to fall. You can’t pin point it, prevent it or place blame on yourself or your mate because at the end of the day, we’re all just dating—some more serious than others.
Of course, what follows is not the perfect formula for the perfect relationship. If you were reading this for that nonsense then I should have told you to STOP reading also. This formula is one that prepares you for the unknown and allows you to be happy regardless of what happens.
While there are relationships that do work and they are purely committed to each other, which I see every blue moon and can count on one hand. I do bow down to them for getting over those rough patches to get where they are because love like that doesn’t happen all the time. Still, those are exceptions and exceptions are rare folks.
There are a couple of things you can do though:
1) Don’t pretend it can’t happen to you because you have the perfect mate. Bull-ish! No one is perfect and nine times out of 10 if you’re thinking this then you’re being cheated on.
2) You’re human and the person you’re with is, too. These relationships we strive to have don’t happen overnight. Monogamy is hard; just ask some other cultures who refrain from it. Plus, if you are under the age of 25, then settling all the way down should be a thought, not a total commitment. Give yourself room to find out what YOU LIKE.
3) Nothing you have is promised. You can be in a relationship today and out of one tomorrow! It’s ok to be single. It’s a hard life but at least you know how to be by yourself. When it’s truly over then you’ll see that that wasn’t the one for you anyway.